My only other single gal pal has been hounding me to read this book almost every day this week, but I’m too cheap to buy it and kept putting it off. On my oh-so-exciting Saturday night I started listening to the borrowed audiobook and immediately was mesmerized and in awe by the truth of the book.
I’ve read dating/relationship books in the past, so I was really unsure why I needed to listen to yet another book, but she was insistent. Since breaking up with my boyfriend of almost 4 years about 2 years ago, I felt like a strong independent woman who did not need to follow traditional dating rules. Why couldn’t I tell a boy that I like him – I viewed it as getting what I wanted. Why couldn’t I message a boy back a few minutes after he messaged me – I wanted him to know I cared. I thought I was being a cool, modern girl, because we live in modern times. Unfortunately, none of those techniques worked out for me, and I wound up with a boy who ended up “ghosting” me after months of back and forth chatting (cue eye rolls) – oh, and I had to be in a wedding with him 2 months later. But that’s a story for another post!
Not Your Mother’s Rules: The New Secrets for Dating is a book written by mothers, with some advice from daughters about modern dating. How and when to respond to a text message, what to post on your Facebook wall, what to wear on a first date – anything you can imagine that a modern dating guide would include. Essentially, the book suggests that a woman should be chased and wanted by a man, and I could not totally agree more. If a man is interested, he will take the time to seek you out. This book essentially puts a modern twist on “old school” dating rules. I can officially say that I am a RULES girl!
To all you other single ladies out there, take some time and read or listen to this book. It might be hard to hear (because it was for me…) but in the end I walked away with valuable advice. Are there other RULES girls reading? What were some of your take-aways from the book?
XO, A 20-something single gal
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